Sunday

It’s Sunday afternoon. The sun begins to set, the hours of free time slip through our fingers and, almost without realizing it, the Garfield that we all have inside begins to emerge. That visceral rejection of Mondays since the previous afternoon seems, at first glance, to be a harmless personality trait or a simple adult tantrum that is easy to joke about. However, behind that knot in the stomach that assails us at nightfall lies a complex epidemic of work stress, hyperconnectivity and excessive expectations. We usually dismiss this discomfort with a couple of memes on social networks or by baptizing it with viral terms. However, at a clinical level, the phenomenon requires nuances. The general health psychologist Alejandra de Pedro, specialist in emotional management, warns us in interview on the double side of labels such as Sunday scaries: “Putting labels is very useful: it helps us feel less alone and seek help more effectively. At the same time, over-labeling has the problem that we can trivialize things, as has happened with ‘I have OCD’ or ‘I’m depressed’.” De Pedro insists on the importance of discerning between simple laziness to go to work and a clinical problem of anticipatory anxiety. The prelude to burnout The data place Spain in a scenario of particular vulnerability. 40% of workers in our country link their stress, anxiety or depression directly to their job, far exceeding the European average (29%) and placing us among the countries with the greatest labor anguish on the continent. When that Sunday sadness transforms into a wall of anxiety, irritability and even physical symptoms, it stops being an anecdote. Brigida H. Madsen, expert cited by Vogue, points out that if “gastrointestinal discomfort” or acute feelings of rejection appear, we are crossing the line into depression syndrome. burnout. Medical institutions such as Mayo Clinic support this vision: he burnout It is not a simple individual failure to manage stress, but a shared responsibility derived from unaffordable burdens on the part of companies. Added to this structural pressure is global uncertainty. Morra Aarons-Mele, host of “The Anxious Achiever” podcast underlines in Washington Post that employment is our source of livelihood and status; Therefore, in the face of constant headlines about economic instability and possible layoffs, it is logical that the body reacts in a “visceral” way. The work model also works against us. Dr. Audrey Tang explains in Euronews that much of this anguish is born from fear of “the unknown” and the feeling of having to start Monday “at full speed”, wondering what new hell awaits us today. Furthermore, Professor André Spicer argues in his column in Guardian that the widespread use of teleworking (and the fact of working from home on Fridays) has drastically blurred the boundaries between leisure and employment, making the physical return to routine psychologically much harder. Physically, the impact is devastating. The body enters a state of “allostatic load”that is, tension raises cortisol —which rises 23% steadily on Mondays— and collapses the immune system, reducing T lymphocytes and cellular defenses, which facilitates neuroinflammation processes linked to depression. The anatomy of anxiety To draw the line between apathy and disorder, Alejandra de Pedro emphasizes that in psychology the criterion is not qualitative, but quantitative. “Two people can have the same symptoms, but the difference is in the degree to which those symptoms affect the person,” he clarifies. Feeling a little nervous 15 minutes before going to sleep is not comparable to waking up on Sunday with a cramped stomach. One of the great myths of Sunday scaries is that it is solved by “better organizing.” De Pedro refutes this idea: “Anxious people often tend to control and fall into the fallacy of ‘if I finish everything before going home, then I won’t have anxiety.’” The real root of the problem is hyperconnectivity. By carrying the office in your pocket, you create the false illusion that everything is urgent. The solution, the psychologist points out, is not to do more, but to set firm limits: not look at the company cell phone and be present in the here and now. But the origin of this anxiety is not always internal. Science reveals toxic dynamics in offices. A study from Cornell and Northeastern universities uncovered “motivational oversimplification”: Bosses tend to assign extra, routine workloads to employees they see as most motivated, mistakenly assuming that “their passion will protect them from burnout.” Curiously, this discomfort does not only punish those who hate their jobs. Ilke Inceoglu, from the University of Exeter Business School, shows that it affects people who love their profession but maintain unrealistic expectations of themselves. It is the result of a “toxic perfectionism” that subordinates personal worth to constant achievement. The survival decalogue Psychology offers concrete strategies to deactivate the weekend time bomb, divided into three key time phases that help us regain control of our free time. Starting with what we could call the Friday firewall, experts agree on the importance of brain dump or “mind dump.” Alejandra de Pedro explains that worry is nothing more than an attempt by the brain to solve a problem. So instead of passively ruminating over the weekend, sitting down to write down your pending tasks before leaving the office channels that anxious energy and gives our mind the feeling that it’s already working on it. To this cognitive download we must add the visual order. The psychologist Lara Ferreiro remember to order the desk is not just cleaning, but deciding. A clear environment drastically reduces the stimuli that overload the prefrontal cortex and, consequently, lowers cortisol levels. The second phase is to protect Sunday. To achieve this, the first step is to avoid self-sabotage. “The best thing you can do is treat Sunday as if it were Saturday,” advises De Pedro. 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