Maybe it’s time we stopped answering “maybe” to calendar invites

Science has just demonstrated something that we all intuited but no one wanted to admit: when you respond “maybe” to an invitation, You are not being polite. You are being selfish. A study published in Science Direct and brought by Causes and Chances explains that hosts prefer a firm “no” to an ambiguous “maybe.” The reason is simple: the “maybe” forces them to plan for two simultaneous scenarios: Should I reserve a table for five or six? Should I buy food for eight or nine? Do I leave time for questions from twelve people or eighteen? That uncertainty is not courtesy. It is a burden that we transfer to others. Those who answer “maybe” operate under a systematic illusion: They think they are showing interest, that their indecision is better than rejection. But the data shows the opposite: Hosts feel more respected with a “no” than with a “maybe.” There’s something telling here: we confuse keeping our options open with being thoughtful, when in fact we are exporting our own indecision as a problemoblivious ma. We transfer our problem (I’m afraid of sounding rude, I don’t want to have to choose yet) to the other (how the hell am I going to plan the event if there are 10 yeses and 24 maybes). The study identifies a classic case of motivated reasoning here: We answer “maybe” because it suits us (we reserve the freedom to decide later). And then we rationalize that selfish decision as if it were what the other person prefers. It is such a common self-deception that we don’t even notice it. We project our preferences over othersand thus we save ourselves the discomfort of recognizing that we are prioritizing our flexibility over your planning. The practical implication is clear: if you’re going to answer “maybe,” it better be because you really need time to figure something out, not because you want to wait to see if something better comes along. Not because it’s hard for you to say no. The “maybe” has a cost that is paid by whoever sends the invitation. The next time we get a calendar invitation, we should ask ourselves if we are being thoughtful or just covering our backs. The answer probably makes us uncomfortable. In Xataka | This is how I use the calendar to organize my entire life Featured image | Xataka with Mockuuups Studio

A 19 -year -old hacked the iPhone, was hired by Apple and ended up fired for not answering an email

The iPhone has been among us for almost 17 years. During all this time, the phone has changed a lot, but some things have remained practically intact since its launch. One of them is the closed ecosystem to which Apple products belong. Anti-Jailbreak. The Cupertino company has struggled to maintain a strong control over what can be done on the iPhone. But even in the first generation of the device there were those who rejected this mechanic and offered users an alternative: the Jailbreak. Jailbreak was nothing other than a method that was used of certain vulnerabilities of the device to remove the restrictions that Apple had imposed. Thus, those who resorted to this method accessed unpaid functions in exchange for putting their safety at risk. The road from Allegra. From advanced adjustments to the possibility of installing third -party applications without going through the App Store (store that was not available at the beginning and arrived in 2008 with OS 2). One of the hackers that had developed his own jailbreak was Nicholas Allegra. The 18 -year -old known on the network as “Comex” launched the first jailbreak publicly available for the iPhone 4 In 2010. To achieve this, he found a way to exploit vulnerability in a Safari library, so his method worked directly from the browser. Advanceing. Comex continued to cultivate his ability to break Apple’s telephone security and the following year launched Jailbreakme 3.0, which reached several iOS devices, including iPad 2. At this point, the community believed that Allegra was “years ahead” of other iOS hackers. And hired. But in 2011, his reality changed radically. The young man He went from creating Jailbreakme to be part of Applethe company that had challenged, as “remote fellow.” It is not clear what the dynamic between the multinational and the young man was, but that link did not take too long to dissolve. The farewell. After almost a year in Apple, in 2012 Allegra He announced on Twitter that was no longer part of Apple. In another message he explained that he had reached that situation because he had “forgotten to answer an email.” The mail in question was an offer to continue hired. The internship had a duration of one year and, apparently, Apple asked Comex by email to confirm if it would continue in the company for one more year. Not receiving an answer, the firm left the iphone hacker contract without effect, so it ceased to be a fellow. Images | Unspash In Xataka | Banks spent years criticizing cryptocurrencies. The BBVA will soon allow to operate with Bitcoin and ETH from its app In Xataka | Japan’s demographic crisis is leaving him without workers. Your solution: thousands of robots with a cat’s face *An earlier version of this article was published in January 2024

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