Sleeping together has been an unquestionable symbol of conjugal love for decades. Today it begins to seem rather a convention that is not entirely comfortable for everyone.
The idea that a couple must share bed every night no longer seems as obvious or assumed as in the past: rest gains ground to the ritual.
What is happening. The call Sleep divorce (or ‘Divorce of sleep’) grows in popularity. It consists of sleeping in beds or even in separate rooms. According to the American Academy of Sleep Medicine43% of Millennials in USA You already practice it occasionally or regularly.
In Spain, 40% have considered it, although stigma still weighs. The main motivation? Sleep better.
Between the lines. The shared dream is no longer interpreted univocally. For many people, Bad sleep because of the couple —Ronquidos, insomnia, different rhythms – it affects more to the link than sleep separately.
The decision usually arises after adaptation attempts or after prolonged episodes of poor rest. It is not so much a breakdown of habits as a readjustment.
In perspective. The use of the bed as a symbol of conjugal unit is relatively recent. Historically, the upper classes slept separately, and the shared beds were more a functional resource of the popular classes.
Over time, the marriage bed acquired a strong symbolic load … that today is at the beginning of a review. The break begins despite more than the symbol.
- Misunderstand It is linked A greater irritability, less empathy and more couple conflicts.
- Interruptions in one tend to drag the other.
- Faced with this, sleeping separately can offer a practical solution, without necessarily implying link loss or decrease in desire.
Yes, but. Not all couples live it the same. In some cases, one of the members accepts reluctantly, for fear that the night distance will also generate an emotional distance. Others fear losing spaces of intimacy or sexual spontaneity.
- In The countrya woman explains how her partner was the one who proposed to sleep in separate rooms: “At first, I felt fatal. He no longer loves me! I thought.” Only later he lived it as a relief. His testimony reflects a common pattern: when the proposal is not mutual, it can arouse emotional insecurity.
- BBC World He quotes the psychiatrist Stephanie Collier, who warns that, for many couples who barely coincide during the day, the moment of bedtime is her only intimate space.
Separating into that section requires “reconfiguring the moments of connection”, or the night separation could lead to resentment if it is not spoken and agreed. The decision is not always symmetrical or simple.
The phenomenon begins to echo out of the domestic sphere. According to the AASM37% of couples prefer separate beds during their stays in hotels. Rest prioritization can change the idea of intimacy in relationships.
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