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For the Royal Academy there is no doubt. “Gentlemanly” It is that man who behaves like a “gentleman”, with “distinction, nobility and generosity” (sic). If we talk about couples relationships, gender roles and clashes between cultures the meaning of those words becomes diffuse and their most complex implications. Good proof is that in recent days Tiktok has opened A curious debate On whether the Spaniards have forgotten how to treat women and can find a model to follow in the United States (among other countries).
Tiktok’s passenger sounds, but It is not the first time that the issue gives to speak and connects with an interesting topic: the (sometimes) diffuse dividing line between the roles that marks education and those that marks machismo. And how that barrier can be seen in different ways in one society or another.
“I don’t go out again with a Spaniard”. The phrase is Carolina Moura, influencer, Tiktoker and author of a video that is on its way to the 2.6 million views and in which it basically complains about the lack of “gentlemen” of the Spaniards if compared to the Americans. The piece is relevant because it has revived a debate that had already caught before In networks with other videos, such as Leslie López, a Latin one who shared a year ago A video showing their disappointment with European men. “There is no knightness here,” It coincided.
@carolynnna And now the bitter ones will come to say “I do not want to go out with you” hahahaha please, to see if we learn to conquer, to respect and be more gentlemen <3
“Personality is more left”. In his video, of just over minute and a half, Moura complains about the Spanish’s attitude after having met an American in Bali. And he assures that he is not the only one to reach that conclusion. “You have sent me messages from girls who have come out with Americans, Canadians, foreigners. You all agree in practically the same and that is that the personality of Spanish is more left, they do not strive what would have to be striving, they are not very gentlemen,” confesses to its 1.8 million followers.
“I pay my own things, but the act of conquest in Spain does not exist,” he continues. The interesting thing about the video is, however, the criticism of the Spaniards, if not the example that points out: Moura speaks of the US men who open the car door to women, separate the chairs, are responsible for planning appointments … “I do not want to say that they are perfect. Nor is that intention. There is also the Ghostinghe Love Bombingbut gentlemenity is lived very differently “, ditch.
And the debate was armed. Moura’s reflections were able to stay in that, the comments of a influencerbut they soon inspired other videos on the same subject. In favor. And against. Among the first, those of those who share their perspective, is Laura Roude, Tiktoker With hundreds of thousands of followers. In A video Of almost 250,000 views “confirms” the idea and shares his experience with a US friend who removes the chair so he feels, opens the car door … “How are the boys in Spain? For giving you they don’t give you even thank you.”
Among the seconds, those who have questioned or even parodied Moura’s vision are Alex Chinerwho warns about his background message: “In the end you are positioning yourself as an award, something that man has to achieve and for what to fight.” “Is the gentlemen’s knights? Being concise, that term smells a little in Rancio and I think it’s a bit caspose, the truth,” agrees Marina Rivers in another Tiktok video in which she emphasizes that women are not “maidens in trouble”, do not need a “blue prince” and defends “reciprocal” couples.
@_riverss_ Knightness has died ???
The real background. The debate is however beyond Tiktok, viral videos or the crossing of opinions on how a man with women should behave: connects with gender roles, culture and differences that may exist between countries, such as between the US and Spain or America and Europe. Should a man invite a woman in romantic dinners? Is it “stable” who is aware of whether or not your appointment has water in the glass, separate the chair so that you feel or insist on being the person who always opens the doors?
Of roles and socities. The key is what is understood and how that concept is perceived, that of “gentlemen”, and if it is understood how an education indicator or vestiges of an imbalance of roles between men and women. Not everywhere can be perceived the same as not all societies are the same or cross the same scenarios. In Spain for example the 8M movement He has gained strength During the last years and behaviors such as those indicated by Moura or Rouder in their videos have been revised until almost disappearing.
The reason in simple: they are associated with dependence, the imbalance, the “maiden/gentleman” roles, as some of the criticisms expressed in Tiktok point out. That conception can be different in the US, where Donald Trump’s return to the White House with A reinforced impulse of conservatismmovements like Pronatalism or the rejection of the concept Woke to political level, social and Businessfight that has in the republican leader one of its main referents.
What do the figures say? Networks, virality And personal experiences apart, the truth is that there are figures that demystify that women are in the US a more “chivalrous” treatment than in Spain. National Domestic Violence Hotline Point out That 29% of women in the US say that they have suffered an episode of harassment, physical violence or rape by their partner that has marked them and almost 15% have been injured due to violence in the couple.
According to the report of the World Economic Forum (WEF) on Equality of 2024, The first 10 countries In gender parity are: Iceland, Finland, Norway, New Zealand, Sweden, Nicaragua, Germany, Namibia, Ireland and Spain. If the GLOBAL GENDER GAP INDEXwhich moves between 1 (equity) and 0 (inequality), Spain obtains 0.797 while the US marked 0.747 last year.
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